Same Old Story

The RabbitBlog is brilliant. If you like reading letters about love advice, go check it out. I just got back from dinner with Hammer (salmon night!) and she advised me to check out Rabbit's most recent response. This to a girl who sounds exactly like your very own Hyde!

You have more instruments and panels on board than he has use for, and this makes you feel like your extra features - your wit, your intelligence, your complicated thoughts - are all useless. He's inadvertently chipped away at your ego, and the more he chips away at it, the less you like yourself, the more you want his approval, the more you go pandering for his attention and good graces, the less you like yourself, etc. It sounds sick and wrong, but most women have been caught in this terrible cycle more than once, and very very few of us are immune to it.

Here's the main thing to remember: He'll never get you, ever, and even if he did, you'd dump him immediately. You're trying to redeem yourself, and secretly trying to prove to him that he's not the mystery hero that he thinks he is, and you're going to fail on both fronts as long as you're with him.

Sometimes it feels good to be a cliche. At least there's some solidarity in it!

-h-