Good news!
I have a major revision to make. The warped mind of Hyde misreported the information. Narc never said I'm not "girlfriend material." I was wrong!
WRONG, I tell you!
I just found the napkin on which I scribbled his quote on Sunday night.
He said:
"Hyde-- I am not destined for boyfriend material."
He was talking about himself! Not me!
SURPRISE!
So that's a totally different story. And I am once again, a happy girl.
B is over here right now. We did his South Park portrait together.
More to come...
-h
9 comments:
gasp!
OK, well, he's not putting you down but he's still pushing you away. What does that even mean anyway? Is he really into all that "destiny" stuff? Or is it a pseudo-intellectual way of saying "I can't be in a relationship?"
Then again, if this makes you happy then it's all good.
I actually disagree with Dan. Narc is bad. We all know that. Drinking and drugging till blacking out is bad. If something is terrible for us, just because we "want" it or it makes us "happy" doesn't necessarily mean that it is "good." I would be really happy robbing banks and gambling all day in Vegas with the proceeds while high on marijuana but that does not mean that it is good.
NDN
(And this is not in ANY way an attack on Dan, rather just disagreeing, I think Dan is a very nice young man, as my nana would put it.)
You're right on the ball with that one NDN. It sounds like something my shrink would say. Well, I'm off to visit cousins living in Ethiopia! THAT should be interesting, eh, Hispanics in Ethiopia!
How is it different?
Whether he's not "boyfriend material" or you're not "girlfriend material" both mean that your relationship on a serious level doesn't exist.
Is "I'm not boyfriend material" an invitation to prove that he is?
Now are you supposed to convince him that he's wonderful and great and he can string you some more?
Please.
I've participated in these cat and mouse games of self-revolved, self-serving people.
I'll bet cash money that if you stopped texting him and stopped answering his booty calls, he'd do one of two things..he'd step up treating you well temporarily until he had you going again, or he'd drop you like a hot spud.
Some people enjoy the whole power over another scenario.
Again, people who really care about other people don't treat them like shit, ignore them until they have nothing else to do, and play with their emotions.
They just don't.
Hmmm...
1. Hammer-- yes, I gasped as well. (With a lovely sound effect!)
2. Dan-- He is into destiny stuff. For example, he believes he's in his "last reincarnation" and therefore will have no children in this lifetime. (I'll let you process the ramifications of that one on your own). But it is MUCH better that he's not putting me down. I'm not "happy" that he doesn't think he's boyfriend material, but I'm a lot happier than if he simply thought I wasn't worthy of HIM.
3. NDN-- I don't think Dan was advocating Narc, per say, only my own happiness. (Remember Dan's old formula-- "You are happy, therefore I'm happy." Works for me.)
4. Nick-- I don't really know you, but Ethiopia sounds interesting. You should post about it. Do you have a blog you update?
5. Radmila-- It's different because he's not putting me down and saying that I'M flawed and I'M problematic. I know it doesn't amount to a different outcome, but it makes me feel better about things anyway. You're right that usually when I back away from him, he starts calling me more and more, but that can't sustain itself. And besides, I'm kind of addicted to him, so it's nearly impossible for me to withhold like that. I tried to not text him back the other day, and I barely made it an hour or so. Narc and I both have issues with power, I think. That's why it's a lethal combo. I'm not deluding myself. I know it's not going to work long term. I just can't deal with letting go of him right now though...
Hope that clears it all up! I may or may not have time to post tomorrow, but I will definitely be making the rounds...
lol,
h
It's amazing! I agree with exactly what Narc said. I didn't think I'd ever write that.
But wait! He thinks he's in his last reincarnation?! He's certainly not on the road to enlightenment, so what's coming next for him?
But, see, another reason not to be with him...you've got plenty of lifetimes 'round the bend. Don't you want to find someone who will torment you beyond this life? That's my goal, personally.
Oh yoy yoy!
An insult from a person like Narc who is lacking in conscience and character is a compliment Hyde.
I'm wondering if I can start a support group for women addicted to sociopaths and pricks...like a twelve step program or something.
I'm going to get on that.
;)
I doubt it's the quickest path.
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